Self Care for Sensitive People – This PDF guide is to help sensitives, empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), intuitives, healers and psychics navigate the rough and tumble of the modern world easily and happily.
Sensitive people have a thin barrier between their core selves and the outside world. They experience the energies around them (from other people, environments and places) acutely. Emotions are deeply felt, and not just their own. As well as processing intense joy and other positive feelings, they can be a channel for unexpressed pain.
For many years I felt handicapped by my sensitivity. I couldn’t see any benefits to experiencing life so vividly and intensely. As a child and young adult I was frequently told “You are too sensitive”.
When I received unwanted information or feelings from the world around me, I worried there was something wrong with me. I regularly felt confused about whether what I was feeling was real or imagined. I never knew when I was being triggered by my own ‘stuff’ or reacting to someone else’s baggage.
After many years of self-enquiry and healing, I began to accept myself fully. Now I believe that psychic sensitivity is a simply gift that needs to be managed correctly. With good habits, you can thrive and turn your sensitivity into a powerful force for good.
There were three initial factors that helped me. The first was reading Elaine N. Aron’s book The Highly Sensitive Person. Then I discovered ‘sensitive’ was actually a job description. I could hardly believe it.
The third was during training as an energy healer and therapeutic counsellor. I learnt about the human energy field, consciousness and the unconscious, including how all three are intertwined and affected each other. I gained a much better understanding of how hidden dynamics impact sensitive people and this helped me in everyday life and impacted my self identity profoundly.
Being sensitive, empathic or intuitive is often misunderstood and devalued. This year I was excluded from joining a Facebook group because I disclosed I was ‘sensitive’. One of the members posted a message to the moderator saying: “No wallflowers”. Being sensitive does not make you shy, timid or inept. According to research, 30% of sensitive people are extroverted.
There is also a misperception that being sensitive means you are not strong. I would say that, though insensitive people can keep going for longer without adequate self-care, sensitive people have inner fortitude and may even be stronger in some areas due to their sensitivity.
For example, sensitive people are more able to respond with kindness, compassion and without judgement, instead of reacting simplistically, blindly or harshly in diffcult situations or with difficult people. They are also often able to carry great burdens of responsibility for others due to their empathic nature, because they don’t want to let others down or cause people pain. I’m not endorsing suffering or sacrifice, it’s just my observation that people who are sensitive often take on other peoples’ issues and problems as their own. This heavy lifting is not for the fainthearted.
Clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson writes about highly sensitive and perceptive internalisers who solve problems from the inside out by being self-reflective and trying to learn from their mistakes. They are self-reliant and take responsibility for solving their own problems. They’ve sometimes become that way due to early life experiences. Rather than being weak, internalisers seek to solve their own problems and those of their family through therapy and healing.
Self care for sensitive people: Are you a highly sensitive person?
Elaine N Aron PhD believes Highly Sensitive People make up 15-20% of the human population and that the trait is also found in many other species. She lists the following factors as clues you may be a HSP:
• Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells or loud noises nearby?
• Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?
• Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies, video games and TV shows?
• Do you need to withdraw during busy days, into a bed, a darkened room or some other place where you can have privacy and relief from the situation?
• Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?
• Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds or works of art?
• Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
• When you were a child, did parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?
Self care for sensitive people: My Free Guide for You
If you identify as sensitive, this guide is designed to reaffirm, clarify and meet your basic needs. It’s a compilation of practical and spiritual habits I’ve adopted and shared with others while working as an intuitive and healer. The more I adher to these guidelines the more wellbeing and resilience I feel.
Next time you feel anxious, overwhelmed, drained or confused look for the antidote in these ten simple practices that make the world of difference and are available to everyone.
Download my free self-care for sensitive people guide – free access below. It can be opened and read on any other device that reads PDFs – download Acrobat PDF Reader here.
Download my free Protection for Sensitives Guide too.